Working through personal feelings in divorce

On Behalf of | Oct 24, 2021 | Divorce |

Making the decision to end one’s marriage is never an easy pill to swallow, even when the event has been a long time coming. Maybe two spouses simply grew apart and harbor no animosity towards each other, which can make the process easier than a contested divorce. Even so, a divorce that two mutually agree upon can still cause a great deal of personal anxiety and other emotions. 

Acknowledge and work through feelings 

Spouses may have tried for years to make their marriage work to no avail. When two people are simply incompatible, even marriage counseling and other means of assistance and support will not work. Although two individuals decide together to end the marriage, one or both can still experience psychological and emotional distress, and it is important to acknowledge that these feelings are natural. 

One may also reach out to family, friends and contacts on social media who have gone through divorce for emotional support. It can help knowing others who have gone through similar events experienced the same sorts of emotions, second-guessing and other issues. However, if one becomes overwhelmed by negative feelings, it is best to seek out the services of a mental health professional, therapist or counselor. 

Set aside time for personal time and remain involved in the divorce case 

Sometimes, people going through divorce simply need to take some time out for themselves to focus on their mental health and emotional well-being. People often take up new hobbies or activities to help keep their mind off the process while getting some much-needed recreation and personal time. It is also a good idea to do some self-reflection during the process to help one grow and learn from the event. 

Also, keeping a close eye on divorce proceedings and taking an active role in the process can help a person feel empowered and less intimidated by what may come. Paying attention in divorce will also help a person maintain a sense of control over the various aspects of the process that may cause stress and anxiety, such as working through property division and/or alimony matters. Seeking the guidance of a compassionate and competent family law attorney can also help, as the lawyer can clearly explain all of one’s options and help a client achieve their goals regarding the divorce.